. . . but to some degree Tommy Christopher (who may be a sparring partner to many on my “side,” but has been a crucial defender of conservative women when the chips were down) is right: gender-baiting is usually in bad taste.
To some degree, it can’t be avoided, since we live in a male-dominated society, and all have to “man up” in some way at some point in our lives. (That’s certainly not a new concept.)
But women in pubic life should try to avoid the appearance that they are trying to have it both ways, and ought to select their terms carefully (e.g., rather than insulting someone’s manhood—almost always dirty pool—they might suggest that the man “grow a spine,” which is a gender-neutral construction).
It is a more powerful and awful thing for a woman to insult a man’s masculinity than for a man to insult a woman’s femininity. In this day and age, we allow females their masculine side more than we allow males their feminine side. Both types of gender-baiting are low, but for a woman to do it to a man is lower: it’s the rhetorical equivalent of a large man punching a smaller woman when self-defense (or defense of another) is not a consideration.