The notion of “having it all” is a crock of shit. Women can’t have it all any more than can men.
Life is hard; why does anyone over the age of 16 need to have this explained?
Conservatism is about individuals and families figuring out what is best for them. Equity feminism is also about individuals and families figuring out what is best for them. There is no major conflict here.
Neither conservatives nor feminists should be placing undue pressure on people in terms of where their work-family balances lie, though conservatives will want to remind everyone that the country needs to be populated and children need to be raised. At the same time, feminists will remind us that discarding the insights and contributions of 51% of our population is not the brightest thing we could do.
This is not complicated.
• Cassandra proves once more that she is the voice of common sense in the blogosphere;
• Julie Gerstein in The Frisky points out that “having it all” is a stupid notion, and then makes a bunch of random remarks about the wickedness of capitalism that gave me a headache;
• Ann-Marie Slaughter imagines I want to read a multiple-thousand-word article on how society must change to make it easier for privileged chicks to lug briefcases around without taking time away from child-rearing, which leads me to assume that the notion is to pre-clone all female children so that each career woman will have a clone-slave to do all the work she doesn’t want to, thereby affording her the chance to live two lifetimes rather than the traditional one.
Not having had the foresight to clone myself while I was young, I elect to eat fresh pineapple instead of wringing my hands about how darned difficult things are in the first world these days, and to save time by not plowing through multiple-thousand-page essays on the challenges presented by my double-x chromosomes.